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| Anyone else know 4 poofs and a piano? (S) |
It's commonly said in homophobic culture that gay men are "poofs"; that they're weak, pathetic and easily offended.
There's an endless list of homophobic slurs in the English language. Poof, fag, fudge packer, sh*t stabber, ass bandit, ass lover, bender, sissy, batty boy, fruitcake... I could go on but it would be pointless. The list grows longer all the time. These slurs are mostly used by other men. Why? To prove they're not gay, to impress their other immature friends, to fit in, to sound "manly".
This is where my problem is...
Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but these homophobic men are all saying that they hate gays and to do so, they have made up a little "anti-glingo" so that they don't run out of ever more insulting words. But it seems to me it's a little ironic that a huge majority of these insults revolve around gay sex. Fudge packer; need I explain? Shit stabber; don't think I need to explain there either. Ass bandit, ass lover, bender, batty boy; nor there. I hope I don't have to explain to anyone the technical aspects of gay sex, but in case you didn't know, I think you've figured it out. It's not exactly the world's best kept secret, now is it?
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| I feel sorry for the poor girl who had this done to her... |
According to the 1996 Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 80% of homophobic men are probably gay. Go figure.
When I came out to a close friend of mine, he said I wasn't "really gay" and that I didn't "act gay". This is a pretty stupid thing to say to a gay guy. It's the same as asking "who's the woman in the relationship?" Forgive me if I'm wrong, but last time I checked, I am gay because I like c*ck, it's not defined by how I act, it's not defined by whether I have a limp wrist or not, and it's not defined by my following of the Paris fashion week (I don't follow the Paris fashion week in case you were wondering, not that there's anything wrong with fitting a stereotype, just; point proven).
So then people might be so stupid as to ask "are you sure you aren't bi?" Oh hell, no. I wouldn't be with or sleep with a girl if you paid me, I'm not interested. Some people, for some reason, have to make up excuses as to why you can't be gay sometimes, almost as if they're helping you cover up the "embarrassment" of being gay. This is down to the stigma that surrounds homosexuality in society, the very stigma we have to fight inside ourselves to feel comfortable in our own skin. Making excuses for us when we're at that fragile stage of first coming out can be confusing. But it has also made me think about what the person saying it might be feeling. Are they refusing to accept the change in their perception of you in their lives? They'll get over that soon enough. Are they, themselves, denying their own homosexuality and therefore making up excuses as to how it "might not be true"? I know I've done this in the past, and so have most of us I'm sure. What I'm trying to say is, some of us - in the LGBT community - hold grudges against people for not coming out sooner, especially those in the public eye, such as Zachary Quinto, or more recently Anderson Cooper. We shouldn't do this. Everyone has their reasons, and we, more than anyone else, should know what it feels like to be outed, or forced out. It's sickening sometimes.
When I came out to a close friend of mine, he said I wasn't "really gay" and that I didn't "act gay". This is a pretty stupid thing to say to a gay guy. It's the same as asking "who's the woman in the relationship?" Forgive me if I'm wrong, but last time I checked, I am gay because I like c*ck, it's not defined by how I act, it's not defined by whether I have a limp wrist or not, and it's not defined by my following of the Paris fashion week (I don't follow the Paris fashion week in case you were wondering, not that there's anything wrong with fitting a stereotype, just; point proven).
So then people might be so stupid as to ask "are you sure you aren't bi?" Oh hell, no. I wouldn't be with or sleep with a girl if you paid me, I'm not interested. Some people, for some reason, have to make up excuses as to why you can't be gay sometimes, almost as if they're helping you cover up the "embarrassment" of being gay. This is down to the stigma that surrounds homosexuality in society, the very stigma we have to fight inside ourselves to feel comfortable in our own skin. Making excuses for us when we're at that fragile stage of first coming out can be confusing. But it has also made me think about what the person saying it might be feeling. Are they refusing to accept the change in their perception of you in their lives? They'll get over that soon enough. Are they, themselves, denying their own homosexuality and therefore making up excuses as to how it "might not be true"? I know I've done this in the past, and so have most of us I'm sure. What I'm trying to say is, some of us - in the LGBT community - hold grudges against people for not coming out sooner, especially those in the public eye, such as Zachary Quinto, or more recently Anderson Cooper. We shouldn't do this. Everyone has their reasons, and we, more than anyone else, should know what it feels like to be outed, or forced out. It's sickening sometimes.
But back to hate now, and unlike Rick Santorum and Bryan Fischer not all effeminate-gay-hating people are "straight". A lot of hate towards these gay men comes from the gay community itself! Talk about bigoted! And I know what I'm talking about, because I was one of those gays. I'm not proud of it, but that is what I said when I first came out; that I "hate feminine gays", that I "don't understand them". Well below is the video that woke me up, and above is the example. We get loads of hate from outside our own community, the last thing we need is to start hating each other. And hate - unlike sexual orientation - can be controlled!
Didn't get the message? You need a dose of Luan Legacy, girl!
I'm not entirely sure how I started off hating feminine gays. It could have been the fact I wasn't comfortable with myself at the time. It's worth noting that I had only come out to myself about a month or more prior to watching this video and changing my views after realising what a complete pillock I had been. Or it could be because of my upbringing. My mother has a thing about applying stereotypes to gay men. They're not meant in a hateful way, but she said to my sister that "gay men are so much fun, they're girlier than girls. They love to go shopping and they're all interested in fashion". I sat there (in the closet) staring in disbelief, before speaking up and pointing out what a stupid remark she had just made, using a made-up example of an imaginary "gay guy in my year". She suddenly went quiet, understanding how wrong she was. This was after I changed my views, probably a month later.
So gays in general aren't pathetic, sissy, slutty boys. We don't want to be women. Nothing freaks us out more than vagina. Sure, some of us like fashion, others like cars and heavy metal, some of us like all three. Taste and favourite past times aren't synonymous with sexual orientation. We are just the way we are and no-one can do anything to change that. As it says in the opening screen of Fagbug, "78% of anti-gay crimes are directed toward men", so we aren't weak. We have to put up with people like you saying hateful things to us or to our community, on average, 26 times a day.
So gays in general aren't pathetic, sissy, slutty boys. We don't want to be women. Nothing freaks us out more than vagina. Sure, some of us like fashion, others like cars and heavy metal, some of us like all three. Taste and favourite past times aren't synonymous with sexual orientation. We are just the way we are and no-one can do anything to change that. As it says in the opening screen of Fagbug, "78% of anti-gay crimes are directed toward men", so we aren't weak. We have to put up with people like you saying hateful things to us or to our community, on average, 26 times a day.
So think twice before you next open your mouth, gay or straight.
And I'll quickly address the homophobes who are boycotting Oreo for this image; get over it. But if we want to wipe out homophobes (seeing as they want to wipe us out) then all we need is for every food company to publish adverts like this one! That way the little buggers will all perish. Mwahahahahaa! Yes, that's the evil "homosexual agenda".
And I'll quickly address the homophobes who are boycotting Oreo for this image; get over it. But if we want to wipe out homophobes (seeing as they want to wipe us out) then all we need is for every food company to publish adverts like this one! That way the little buggers will all perish. Mwahahahahaa! Yes, that's the evil "homosexual agenda".
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