My Trans Ex-Girlfriend

WARNING: SERIOUS FEELS AHEAD.
Please enjoy this picture before delving
into the FEELS

Just over a month ago, my first girlfriend dumped me. It seems like it's been half a year. I guess it was one sided, because I learned more about myself than she ever did. I ended up confronting a lot of big questions that you, ladies and gentlemen and variations thereof and none of the above, might profit from.

I can't tell you how we met or where. None of that is important anyway. I will tell you, even though it hopefully won't be important in the future, that she was MtF transgender. She had begun hormone therapy a few months before. Her face alone was already beginning to feminize so much that a daub of makeup and a dress would let her pass all but the most careful inspection. She was slowly coming out to her classmates and professors as female although she wasn't yet living as a woman full time.

There are those, reading this article, that will want to commend me, a lesbian, for dating a trans woman, for keeping an open mind. For these people, I have a quick remark:

Shut. The. Fuck. Up.

Why People Don't Listen to Silence

IDAHOBIT involves a minute of noise rather than silence (S)

IDAHO (also known as IDAHAT and IDAHOBIT) is the International Day Against Homophobia. It is set on May 17th every year, and its main aim is to raise awareness of bigotry that is often experienced by QUILTBAG people all around the globe. May 17th was the date that the World Health Organisation declassified homosexuality as a disease.

Two Historic Decisions

As Philippa reported on April 1st, last week the US Supreme Court heard arguments on the constitutionality of the Defence of Marriage Act.

For international readers, and readers who are just confused (because it is confusing, darn it), I'll give you a quick rundown on how the Supreme Court decision will affect the whole country.

Even though my own State allows gay marriage, it doesn’t mean anything if one goes to a state that doesn’t recognize it. It also means nothing on the federal level, which means gay couples do not enjoy the protections of marriage in regards to taxes, retirement and death benefits (such as they are).

The Daily Failure of the Daily Mail to Take Responsibility

(S)

Anyone who lives in Britain, has lived in Britain, or just generally pays attention to British media will have heard of the Daily Mail. The Daily Mail, a long-time supporter of the Conservative Party, enjoys whipping its readers, also generally long-time supporters of the Conservative Party, into a blind frenzy with its writing. Usually it involves minorities or (cover your eyes if you happen to read the Mail) lower class people, and in most cases this is because readers of the Mail are incredibly scared of everyone who isn't exactly like them. If you don’t want to hear about some truly disgusting examples of hate speech against trans* people, then don’t read any further. 

Unable to sit her exam unless she wears boys' clothes

Ashlyn, 16 years old (S)

I stumbled on an article earlier that was about a young transgender, Ashlyn Parram, who was refused into her exam unless she went home and changed into boys clothes.

Now before I had even read more than two lines of that article I got really angry with the person who had written it. Why did I get annoyed with them? Simple, this person was writing an article about discrimination against transgender people - from what I could gather from the title - but they were almost as bad as the people they were critiquing.

They were writing about Ashlyn who had been refused into an exam by her teacher because she is biologically male and wouldn't go home and change into boys clothes; but they were referring in their article to the young victim as "he". He! I ask you! The whole point of their article was to denounce trans discrimination, and about how the young girl was being treated because of who she was and then they write their article and call her a he! No, no, no! This is wrong in so many ways!